Week 6, Post B

Nineteen Minutes

Dear Lacy,
I have so much sympathy for you, because you have been through so much. You thought you were raising a normal family of four when everything just went the wrong way. A question that has been growing on me as a possible theme is "Can your own child be a mystery to you?" You did not know Joey, your son who passed away did drugs and you thought Peter was just an adolescent growing boy. You ponder about what you did that may have caused peter to act this way: "That she didn't pay more attention when Peter showed her some new programming skill; that she hadn't bought him another dog after Dozer died; That they did not go back to the Caribbean last winter vacation, because Lacy had wrongly assumed they had all the time in the world"(256). That may have been a possible cause, but you probably could not have stopped it all. Also, i think that it is unfair of the other parents whos children were victims should not be mean and not understanding to you. They need to put themselves in your shoes and realize how hard it is to have one son dead and one son in jail; so technically you have lost two children, that you have had barely no control over.
THANK YOU!
~ Claire O'Neill